Everyday Adventures

The Three Loves in Life

I spent most of my Thanksgiving on the road to California. I planned to visit family for dinner. I didn’t mind the solo drive. In fact, I relished in it. The desert scenery had never looked more beautiful to me.

Desert from Car

It was the first stretch of hours I’d been alone in a many moons. For the first time since I could remember, I only had to focus on one task at hand: just drive.

I cranked up one of my playlists, drummed the dashboard, and danced without restraint (well, as much as my seat belt would allow). Solo traveling once again, even if it was just for a holiday, was something I was VERY grateful for.

But naturally, I had to find SOME way to multitask. So I took to calling some of my friends (hands free, I swear!) thanking them for their presence in my life. I could have never called every single person I loved within those five hours, but it felt good to share the love with those I did.

Between the conversations and “Happy Thanksgiving” wishes on fast food restaurant marquees, my mind overflowed with the many blessings I’d received this year.

From silly town names (like Zzyzx, California), to feel-good photos of penguins in sweaters, to incredibly sappy moments with friends and family, my gratitude filled the desert valley far and wide.

sweater penguins

But there was one thing in particular that stood out to me. As I rolled past small towns, down the stretches of road, and skipped through songs, it held steady like a bass line.

A few weeks ago, I interviewed filmmaker, Mario Van Peebles, on the Soul Train Awards’ red carpet. He was with his daughter and he said something to me that was so striking, so… true, I had to share it with you. Obviously it stuck with me.

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Photo by TheJasmineBrand.com

“I think there are three loves: Love what you do. Love the folks you do it with. And love what you get to say with it. And if you get those three to line up, you’re in good shape.”

I thought about where I landed on his spectrum. And I realized that while I was nowhere near where I thought I’d be, I was so lucky to have work in a field I enjoyed. I was officially a PAID WRITER… for the number 1 daily newspaper in America. AND I got to do some pretty bad ass things because of it.

Darren Criss

The people I’ve met and been able to surround myself with this year have been incredible. The more time that passes, the more I continue to meet inspiring, positive, creative, and supportive souls from around the world.

My circle keeps growing and is more colorful and beautiful everyday. It even includes a few fins now, too.

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But it’s definitely the third contention that gets me. I get to do something with my work that is unique: I get to share it with others. And I am blessed to know others who want to share back.

Thank you all for sharing back.

I hope all you Stateside folks had a wonderful Thanksgiving. And to everyone worldwide, here’s to wonderful beginning to the holiday season. But more importantly, here’s to doing what you love, with who you love, and loving what you get to say with it.

My latest piece on Ringo Starr for USA Today

My latest piece on Ringo Starr for USA Today

Cheers.

8 Comments

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    Akshay`

    November 29, 2013

    We don’t officially have a holiday to thank people in our lives out here, but nonetheless I am glad to see people actually appealing to the ‘human’ aspect of the holidays.

    But yeah, more than the people and the places, I guess thanking the world (universe more like) everyday for being the place it is and letting you get away with/ do the things you do is to .imho. be truly thankful, grateful even.

    Even if Sir. Peebles broke it down to three loves. It’s much simpler when you say love the world. Coz crumbs! It’s got everything you need right here.

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      Hilary

      December 16, 2013

      You’ve got some great insight, Akshay! I think you’re absolutely right: love the world and love all in the world. Sometimes I feel like the meaning of such a simple philosophy gets overlooked, but it really is the most powerful.

      Where are you from, Akshay? What do you love most about the holidays?

      Thanks so much for commenting!

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    Brittany

    December 3, 2013

    That is amazing!!!! That law of attraction is real! Even though, you got rejected to get your masters in physiology it directed you in the field you were meant to be which is journalism!! That is awesome and u weren’t meant to do that! When u do good things but I have a bump in the road the law of attraction will guide u on the road you’re meant to take!

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      Gry Ranfelt

      December 6, 2013

      Sometimes you’ve got to ask yourself if thingshappen randomly and lead to the “right place” randomly or if we’re subjected to real-life foreshadowing.

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        Hilary

        December 16, 2013

        I like to think of life as a more complicated version of Chutes and Ladders (have you ever played that game?). There’s a starting point, and end point, and an endless number of routes one can take in between. But each individual has a limitless potential to climb up or slide down, depending on their spirit and self-determination. Though I do like the idea of the Universe having plans for each individual.

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      Hilary

      December 16, 2013

      It’s true; there is a lot to be said for the Law of Attraction :).

      Thank you for all of your support, Brittany! What intentions do you want to put out there for 2014 for the Universe to work with?

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    Gry Ranfelt

    December 6, 2013

    This is all very true. I think I’ve come very close to these three as well, though I don’t get paid yet, haha!
    Does one of your blog posts tell the tale of how you got your job as a journalist? How long time is it since you did that first blog post? Three years? And when did you get the job? (Aka how long did you go with jumping between strange occupations to make a living?)

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      Hilary

      December 16, 2013

      You will soon, though! I can feel it. If you’re enjoying what you’re doing, it won’t be long now. Just keep putting yourself in a position to get paid. (They won’t find you if you can’t be found- makes sense?)

      Actually, I don’t think I ever wrote about the journey to USA Today. But I will do that. Obviously it’s a big part of my life now, so I think it’s time to actually document it. I will be sure to let you know when it goes up! Stay tuned :).

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Hey fellow adventurers, my name is Hilary! After being rejected from grad school, I took off on a solo journey around the world. Now I constantly challenge myself to take on new experiences. This blog documents my journeys from Europe to Fiji, swimming with sharks and living with tribes, to becoming an accidental beauty queen and working for one of the top national media outlets. If you like what you're reading, please subscribe! Here's to the next great adventure!

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